When I was in my 20s, my fiancé died in a plane crash a few days before marriage. Not long … Continue reading If You Knew the True Story
Question: I admit it. I snap at coworkers. And sometimes customers. Maybe once a week. Not a lot. Only when … Continue reading The Blame Shifter
“I’m sorry you took it that way.” An apology? Not even close. The apologizer blames the hurt person for how … Continue reading The Right Way to Apologize
Question: I hate office politics. I’ve never wanted to play them. Now it’s costing me. My former co-worker, “Dee,” has … Continue reading Hate Office Politics? Have to Work Under Your Underqualified Former Coworker?
Question: As the only person of color in my workplace, going to work has become increasingly uncomfortable since the police … Continue reading Racism in the Workplace
When someone in your work or personal life treats you poorly, do you address it—or do you fear to bring … Continue reading The Price You Pay for Avoiding Conflict
Our country is deeply divided. What’s happened and is happening in the protests turned violent through our country can scare … Continue reading Polarization is Killing Our Country: 7 Concrete Steps to Heal
Question: I work 80 hours a week in the field. I run a crew of ten to twenty men. The … Continue reading Dealing with Ms. Snark…Wait…Who’s the Problem?
It’s quicksand and seductive–the drama triangle hooks most people. Even if you haven’t heard of the drama triangle, you’ve experienced … Continue reading The Drama Triangle Quicksand
The Drama Triangle in life When we go about our lives, particularly if we live active lives, we run into … Continue reading Drama Triangle Collision & Escape