I’m a new supervisor and one of my employees threw me under the bus even though I’ve repeatedly helped her out.

We were friends before I got promoted, and I never let my status as her supervisor go to my head. Instead, I went above and beyond for her, helping her out when she got behind in work, even when I knew she could have gotten everything done if she hadn’t wasted time chatting or texting. I looked the other way when she came in late to work, made oatmeal and ate it before she started work.

A couple times when she was late, I warned her to knock it off, that the manager might catch her and be angry.

Today when the manager came in early, realized my employee wasn’t there to answer the phones and disciplined her, she said I’d OK’d her coming in late, as long as she got her work done.

The manager pulled me in, questioned me and then put me on probation. I’m so angry I don’t know what to do. Is there a way I can get back at her?


She may have thrown you under the bus; however, it was your own actions that initially slid you under that bus.

You didn’t supervise her; you covered for her. When you counseled her about her lateness, you warned her that the manager might be angry. In other words, you pointed your finger at him.

She then pointed her finger at you to protect herself. After listening to both of you, the manager assessed you weren’t functioning as a supervisor.

What should you do? Learn from this. Instead of “getting back” at your former friend and employee, begun functioning as a supervisor and not as a bad-habit enabler. If you do, your former friend may regret all the perks she’s lost; however, you may have begun to learn what it means to be a supervisor.


© 2020, Lynne Curry

Lynne Curry is the author of “Beating the Workplace Bully” (AMACOM, 2016) and “Solutions” (both books are rated 4.8 out of 5 stars on Send your questions to her at or follow her on twitter @lynnecurry10.

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