The Drama Triangle in life
When we go about our lives, particularly if we live active lives, we run into the drama triangle.
I did this week.
If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle, it relates to how abusers (particularly those who don’t recognize themselves as that) latch on to targets (including those who have intention of playing victim). Targets then need to say “not playing” even if the abuser escalates.
What hooks us
Many of us grew up in the drama triangle; it was wired into us. When we meet abusers, it can feel like quicksand.
Abusers: here’s how to recognize them & what makes them
Abusers follow a script. They verbally or situationally attack and show themselves to be judgmental and self-righteous. Often, they grew up learning to be tough, with empathy taught away as weakness. They find toughness addictive.
Here’s how to cut the abuser’s tentacles. Don’t play his or her game. Remain grounded. Abusers thrive on drama and denial. Truth is an antidote.
You may think: easy to say, hard to do. Yes. However, once you learn to “cut the wires,” it becomes easier.
If this post interests you, I can provide drama triangle and “undoing the script” insights later this week. (Tomorrow’s post “Suspect employee of lying about COVID to get extra vacation,” with thoughts from a labor attorney as well as myself is already scheduled.)
Just let me know if the topic intrigues you.